I've always wondered how difficult it is to make friends. We all believe in either "Friend's are forever" or "Friend's come and go". I've always believed in the former one but when I see around not many agree with me. Most of them feel only the family saves them when it really matters. But has anyone wondered why it happens? Is it because friend's don't wanna help? NO I think it is because we all never share our probs with them, atleast not everything and thatz the crux of it.
Hell why am I saying all this, coz the reason for this blog is to pen the feeling I get about losing friends. And why am I losing friends? not because they did something bad to me or vice versa. I'm losing most of my friend's to the institution called "MARRIAGE". Agreed I'm still single and have no idea of getting hitched in the near future. But hell why do people change after you get married????? DAmn, beats me. I have tired over a period of time to understand why this happens? Is it because the new person in my friend's life is not accommodative enough of her/his friends? Or she/he needs more time of my friend? What is it?????? I've seen gals/guys under going a sea change which is difficult to digest.
Even in pure business sense, we've all learnt "Retaining a customer is cheaper than acquiring a new customer". Don't you think the same applies to friendship? not in terms of monetary but in terms of building a relationship? We spend years building one, where we share all our darkest secrets and seek help every now and then and all of a sudden something called the "MARRIAGE" crops up and Bingo itz all over, at least it is never the same. What happens to all the years we have spent together through thick and thin of life? All down the drain? And hey itz not easy to make a new friend, and for sure the new one can never replace the old one. Why can't we all be the same even after a disaster called "MARRIAGE"?
I only wish things were much simpler for all of us and we could do a better job, but guess thatz what life is all about, being a fuckin "BITCH"....
Wednesday, July 16, 2008
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Nice blog Sal!!! Keep blogging.
ReplyDeleteI set a target of one post a week .. I've a few private blogs which if included I meet the target ;-) well .. that's my excuse. :-)
Sals, this is a good one. The change is not intentional. Contrary to what movies describe, marriage stresses and confuses both partners and they are learning to deal with it as much as everyone else is. Change is inevitable
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